To set the scene for this mother of a first world problem, imagine for a moment the absolute delight you would feel when you are told that you’re going away on an all expenses paid long weekend to a lush tropical paradise courtesy of your work. If you’re anything like me, you will instantly be thinking of warm weather, palm trees, cocktails and laughter.
Then, imagine a few days later the cloud of despair that would descend upon you when you find out from ‘Linda in HR’ that you *might* need to share a twin room with someone………that someone being a work colleague (cue inward screaming).
I don’t know about you, but the number of people that I would feel comfortable sharing a room with is a really small list: my husband, my children, my pets, and my best friend. Outside of that list, everyone else is just plain awkward.
When the other person is someone you only know professionally, and might have only known for a really short time, feelings of terror are immediate.
Along with feeling disappointment at my employer for not having provided individual rooms for everyone, frustration at yourself for not just being ‘ok with it’, and down right anger at the audacity of those colleagues that confidently assert themselves and stake a claim to the only single room option, the emotional fall out is cataclysmic.
I want one of those single room options so bad. I’m sure everyone does really. However, unlike my confident colleagues, I just don’t feel comfortable openly and assertively putting my needs of others.
Do I feel less worthy? Maybe.
Do I think they deserve it more than me? No.
Upon reflection, perhaps they’re not actually that confident. Instead, maybe they’re just a little bit ignorant, and a little bit selfish.
So, the question is: how do you deal with it?
PS the sharing a bathroom with 3 other people is a whole other story….